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American pastor and author Bill Hybels once said, “You are the most difficult person you will ever lead.”
And he was right.
Leading others isn’t exactly an “easy A.” But when we lead ourselves, we take on the role of leader and follower – we face the challenges of both sides of the equation. We must be dedicated to focus, discipline, intentionality, and purpose. Self-leadership is a tall order with zero off-hours.
But it’s absolutely necessary if we ever want to lead anyone else.
Self-Leadership: Making vs. Managing Decisions
We often think that self-leadership is about making good decisions every day, when the reality is that we need to make a few critical decisions in major areas of life and then manage those decisions day to day.
If you’re interested in improving your self-leadership, focus on these six areas:
1. MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS.
There are many factors that contribute to auto accidents – lack of sleep, inclement weather, and driving intoxicated among them. But one of the most common culprits is distracted driving – and one of the most common distractions? Emotional problems.
Researchers at the Virginia Tech Transportation Institute have found that “emotionally agitated” drivers are not two, not three, but more than ten times more likely to experience a crash.
There are times to let our feelings show – after all, in the right context, people relate to and connect with emotions. And it’s not healthy for anyone to deny or bury what they’re feeling. But in the wrong time and place, an outburst of emotion can cause more harm than good. Awareness and control of our emotions is one of the first and most powerful steps of self-leadership.
2. MANAGE YOUR TIME.
Time is valuable. Psychiatrist and author M. Scott Peck said, “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” In What to Do Between Birth and Death, Dr. Charles Spezzano says that people don’t pay for things with money; they pay for them with time. After all, we earn money by investing our time. “The phrase spending your time is not a metaphor,” said Spezzano. “It’s how life works.”
Instead of thinking about what you do and what you buy in terms of money, think about them in terms of time. Think about it: what is worth spending your life on? Seeing things in that light just may change the way you manage your time.
3. MANAGE YOUR PRIORITIES.
In today’s world of shorter and shorter attention spans, many people in the personal growth community are searching for “secrets to success.” And while there are no formulas for instant growth, we can accelerate the process by working smarter, not harder. And one of those smart ways of working has every bit as much to do with what we don’t do as what we do. In Good to Great, American writer and researcher Jim Collins wrote:
Most of us lead busy, but undisciplined lives. We have ever-expanding “to do” lists, trying to build momentum by doing, doing, doing—and doing more. And it rarely works. Those who build the good-to-great companies, however, made as much use of “stop doing” lists as the “to do” lists. They displayed a remarkable amount of discipline to unplug all sorts of extraneous junk.
You must be ruthless in your judgment of what you should not do. Just because you like doing something doesn’t mean it should stay on your to-do list. If it is a strength, do it. If it helps you grow, do it. If your leader says you must handle it personally, do it. Anything else is a candidate for your “stop doing” list.
4. MANAGE YOUR ENERGY.
Some people have to ration their energy so that they don’t run out. But even the Energizer Bunny himself can have the energy sucked right out of him under difficult circumstances. Often, leaders in limiting situations have to deal with “the ABCs energy-drain.”
Activity Without Direction—doing things that don’t seem to matter
Burden Without Action—not being able to do things that really matter
Conflict Without Resolution—not being able to deal with what’s the matter
If you’re in an organization or situation where you’re navigating these ABCs, you must manage your energy well (and don’t forget to account for the energy it takes to do that!).
5. MANAGE YOUR THINKING.
Poet and novelist James Joyce said, “Your mind will give back to you exactly what you put into it.” The greatest enemy of good thinking is busyness. If you find that the pace of life is too demanding for you to stop and think during the day, then get into the habit of jotting down the three or four things that need good mental processing or planning that you can’t stop to think about. Then carve out some time later when you can give those items some good think-time. That may be thirty minutes later that same day, or you may want to keep a running list for a whole week and then take a couple of hours on Saturday. Just don’t let the list get so long that it disheartens or intimidates you.
6. MANAGE YOUR WORDS.
In The Forbes Scrapbook of Thoughts on the Business Life, French journalist and politician Emile de Girardin is quoted as saying, “The power of words is immense. A well-chosen word has often sufficed to stop a flying army, to change defeat into victory, and to save an empire.” If you wish to make sure that your words carry weight, then weigh them well. The good news is that if you manage your thinking and take advantage of focused think-time, you will probably see improvement in the area of managing your words too.
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